Tipsy Truths

What people say

• M

  Participant MJune 14, 2026

  "I never really read the description for "Tipsy Truths" properly before — it wasn't until someone else explained it to me that I realized each session actually has a different theme, which got me really curious what kinds of topics they'd cover. This time's theme was about everyone's own origin story with BDSM — that one-of-a-kind story that belongs to each person. My takeaway after attending: yep, this was genuinely such a fascinating topic! The format made sure everyone got a chance to speak, using the theme as a jumping-off point to say whatever you wanted to say. Personally I think that's a brilliant design — getting to chat with so many different people and hear their thoughts like this is genuinely such a happy thing––"

• L

  Participant LJune 7, 2026

  "Loved this time's lemon-tea vodka too knocked back 2 glasses and then had some of my friend's too 😹 thanks to Lingyang for constantly refining this event so many little details were taken care of along the way 🌸 also felt lit up by all kinds of warm little interactions a knowing smile a genuine compliment a heartfelt way of expressing how nice it was spending time together a kindly meant reminder thanks to M for coming along 💘 thanks for such a nourishing evening spent in everyone's company~"

• M

  Participant MJune 7, 2026

  "Thanks to Lingyang for the lemon tea (? another chill, chill talking night as always my mental battery's been running kind of low lately, but once I started listening and chatting, I ended up getting fully recharged a few small tweaks gave the sharing time a slightly different vibe this round, every rotation was such a fun chat, and I always felt a little sad when the bell rang to switch thanks to L for coming along, being able to attend events together like this really is such a happy thing"

• W

  Participant WMay 16, 2026

  "This was a big deal for me — my new look's debut! Took forever to change outfits (part of me didn't dare walk out 🤣) so many familiar faces there that day, made me feel really at ease, thanks to everyone and the host for being so welcoming, all in all an unforgettable night, more thoughts in the photos."

• M

  Participant MMay 17, 2026

  "Second time playing at Slime, also my second Tipsy Truths bravely asked about #11, which hadn't come up right away at first, and it eventually did successfully sprout off my name tag as wished for still love this warm atmosphere, felt the acceptance and genuine sharing in the room (thanks to Lingyang and the energy that brown-sugar water of his brings this time I feel like I took one more small step forward and got to know some new friends thanks to L for the invite, having your company made me feel at ease"

• K

  Participant KMay 17, 2026

  "I went to this event yesterday, and it left me with a lot to resonate with and reflect on, so I wanted to properly write down my thoughts about it. 1. The anxiety before showing up, and the reassurance a friend brought I got to Slime really early. I've been to Slime Nest many times already, and besides just being someone who habitually leaves early to build in buffer time, the main reason is that I don't want to rush to get there. I'm someone who needs time to relax and settle in — being in a less crowded environment while I slowly get into the right headspace really helps me. But even while waiting, my brain kept running little scenarios anyway, like: "What if I'm not in a good headspace later?" or "What if there's no one to talk to?" So there I was, feeling anxious while also hoping my friend would show up. Thankfully, the moment I saw a friend I knew finally arrive, I instantly relaxed. Genuinely — having a friend there with you at an event massively lowers that social-anxiety tension, and makes it so much easier to actually open your mouth and speak; and once you've taken that first step of "speaking up," talking to people you're meeting for the first time somehow doesn't feel so hard anymore either. 2. From worrying about not being accepted, to the joy of being truly seen Once the event started, the host briefly explained the format, and poured everyone a glass of "liquid courage" (someone said it tasted like a whiskey brown-sugar drink XD). Next came the self-introduction segment — the host mentioned she might ask follow-up questions based on what you shared, though of course you could also choose not to answer. Strangely enough, even though I usually get a little nervous during self-introductions, this time I was unusually flustered, and before I knew it I'd nearly finished the drink in my hand. My mind was full of worries the whole time: would I talk too fast, say too little, and fail to give everyone a full picture of me? But if I said too much, I worried no one would actually be interested, no one would want to talk to me, or even that the real me wouldn't be accepted. My turn came quickly. I gave a brief rundown of my orientation, my role, and the interests listed in my profile bio. Then the host asked, out of curiosity: "How did you get into this medical-play kink specifically?" I went along with the memory and shared that ever since I was a kid, watching medical dramas or news clips, I'd always longed for that feeling of "being a patient who's well taken care of"; later, once I had the financial means, I slowly started buying related props and equipment, and I just fell more and more in love with it, completely unable to stop. As for more of the details — maybe I'll save those for the next "Tipsy Truths." Thankfully, the self-introduction segment wasn't nearly as awkward or scary as I'd imagined. I think some of the credit goes to the host's follow-up questions, which let everyone get a bit more familiar with whoever was speaking. When there's more content to listen to, people naturally get absorbed into the environment. Even though I still got a bit nervous right before my turn, I felt a lot more at ease overall — and since most participants at this session were also socially anxious, knowing "I'm not alone" helped ease some of that anxiety too. That sense of safety — being able to genuinely show yourself and be accepted — turned, later during the small-group question-wheel segment after the break, into the even sweeter joy of being truly seen. At that point the event split everyone into groups based on the number they'd picked at check-in, and questions were drawn randomly using the group leader's phone. One of the questions our group drew was: "What was your first impression of me?" When we got this question, I curiously asked my groupmates the same thing back. One person mentioned knowing I really like medical-themed kink, and said they'd actually been pretty surprised to learn I own a patient monitor of my own! Another person mentioned having seen my posts on Twitter before, and asked me in person "is it really you," saying they were happy to see the real me in person. Ha ha ha, am I really that recognizable? Honestly, I was really happy that someone had seen me online and was willing to recognize me at an in-person event — that's actually one of the things that motivates me to keep running my accounts. If any of you reading this see me at an event, please, come recognize me and say hi — I would be so happy! Hearing this kind of feedback lets me know I'm heading in the direction I actually want to go with my presence, and that feeling is amazing! 3. Social-anxiety triggers at scene events, and what breaks the ice Before the small-group activity, the host also prepared a few discussion questions, passed around using a stuffed animal so everyone got a turn to share their thoughts. One of them was: "What kind of environment or conditions make you feel especially socially uncomfortable at scene events?" I shared my own experience: if there are too many people (roughly more than 20), I start to feel overwhelmed; or if I see a lot of people who came with a partner, chatting happily in their own little circles, I start worrying I'll have no one to talk to and won't be able to fit in, and I'll feel envious of people who have someone with them. That kind of environment, and the thoughts it triggers, raise the bar for me to actually speak up, and I end up hyper-aware of my own every move, completely tense. But I also noticed something interesting: as soon as someone comes over to talk to me, or I work up the nerve to say the first line myself and the other person's reaction isn't bad, most of that anxiety usually just disappears. 4. Practical social mindsets, and finding your own value During the event, the host also shared a few really practical mindsets for socializing, which I think are perfect reminders to use whenever anxiety shows up, so I wanted to record and share them here: 1. Talking to someone should come from actually wanting to understand them, not from constantly worrying about being rejected. 2. Getting rejected is just a way of filtering for the people who are actually a good fit for you. 3. Small talk is just an exchange of feeling — it doesn't need to have, and doesn't have to have, some deeper meaning. 4. Don't fixate on immediately making a friend or finding a partner. 5. Don't overthink it, and don't underthink it either. (Most socially anxious people overthink!) Besides mindset, the host also mentioned finding and putting your own value to use. For example, people in the scene often like to cook and share food; if you're a Top, you can work on refining your technique or how you communicate; if you're a Bottom, you can practice getting better at expressing yourself clearly — saying plainly what you like and don't like, and giving feedback at the right moments. This can go a long way toward helping two people who don't know each other well yet get comfortable faster. Of course, this doesn't mean "you have to do X to be doing it right," or that doing it guarantees any particular outcome — at the end of the day you're still just you. But if you're interested in developing this side of yourself, it's worth trying — it might open up more possibilities. Of everything shared, the point I personally think matters most is this: "Interact with others with sincerity." We don't need to feel like we have to be some impressive, remarkable person. If you interact with sincerity, people will feel it — and they'll often be willing to respond with that same sincerity in return. That's actually the approach I tried to use while at this event. Even something as simple as sharing "I thought today's event was really great," or, when I happened to catch someone's eye, giving them a smile or a small nod — as long as I could tell the other person wasn't avoiding me, I'd try striking up a conversation, and things would just start from there. And even if the conversation genuinely didn't take off, as long as things stayed respectful, you could just naturally wrap it up and walk away — it's not some kind of disaster. And once you're lucky enough to meet someone you really click with, even if your specific interests don't line up exactly, as long as the wavelength is right, you can pretty much talk about anything. Looking back, I'm really grateful I was willing to take that first step, and genuinely grateful to everyone who was equally willing to meet me with the same sincerity — because of that, I've made quite a few good friends this way, and we still share our experiences and thoughts from different events with each other, even make plans to attend future events together. As I keep meeting more and more people, my social circle has gradually grown right alongside it. 5. Longing for intimacy and companionship During the small-group discussion segment, besides the pleasant surprise around the "first impression" question mentioned earlier, we also drew some either/or scenario questions and questions about relationship values, which gave me a lot to reflect on: Q: "Would you prefer a monogamous D/s relationship, or an open one?" If I really had to choose, at the time I answered monogamous. Right now, I think I'd actually like to try a "switch-context" kind of relationship (only entering D/s mode in specific situations). As for "monogamous" versus "open," since I haven't actually experienced a real relationship yet, I still hold this somewhat dreamy longing for what "exclusive to each other" means, and I think there's something genuinely beautiful about belonging only to each other. That said, other people at the event shared some thoughts on open relationships too, which gave me a lot to think about beyond my initial answer. When it comes to preferences, no two people are ever exactly identical — there's always going to be some difference in emphasis. If, after all kinds of communication and effort, one partner just genuinely has no interest in something, or that thing happens to be a hard limit for them, how do you resolve that? With informed consent as the foundation, an open relationship does seem like it could meet different needs through different connections — it really is one valid solution. But I know myself well enough to know I have a fairly strong possessive streak, and I might find it hard to accept a partner having anything beyond friendship with someone else, so for now I still want to focus mainly on pursuing something monogamous. If the opportunity comes up in the future, I'd also like to attend an event discussing open relationships, to hear more different perspectives. Q: "If someone wanted to court you, what would move you the most?" The word that first came to mind, and that captures it best, was "companionship." Rather than pure play for the sake of play, what I actually crave more is for the other person to also want to understand me, with their own kind of tenderness, outside of any scene. For instance, when chatting online about shared interests, naturally extending an invitation to try something together; or, during in-person interaction, gently helping me put on an oxygen mask, or absentmindedly patting my head, or soothing me with soft words — those are the things that genuinely move me (with a reasonable level of familiarity and trust, of course). Even more important: that even outside of a scene, they're still willing to put in the effort to get to know me as a person, make plans to do everyday things together, or listen when I'm feeling down. That's what makes me feel like the other person doesn't just want to "perform a scene with me," but genuinely wants to understand and take care of me. Of course, these feelings are hard to fully put into words — I think I'd really only be able to truly feel that sense of exclusive connection by actually experiencing that kind of interaction, and maybe the other person would end up making me feel that companionship in their own way, one I hadn't even thought of. 【Closing】 This event brought up so much resonance and reflection for me, and it filled me back up with energy after a period of feeling down. Once again, through genuine conversation, I got to make new friends, and I'm so happy about it! Still looking forward to whatever comes next!"

• S

  Participant SMay 17, 2026

  "It started with Lingyang's breakdown and everyone taking turns sharing, then small-group chats where we each shared our perspectives on all kinds of topics let everyone comfortably express themselves in a relaxed atmosphere, and get to know how people with different personalities think the biggest difference, I think, basically comes down to how you view "the unknown" maybe the answer is just to keep trying to accept the fear that comes from not knowing~"

• J

  Participant JMay 17, 2026

  ""Being a socially anxious introvert?" really loved the little questions Lingyang put together this time and the answers behind them too felt like there was real theory to it, hit right at the heart of things like: where's the best spot to approach someone the answer given was a natural gathering point (like right in front of the food table, that kind of thing also picked up some little tricks from everyone there (how to make yourself less socially anxious at events, that sort of thing"

• L

  Participant LMay 17, 2026

  "Went to May's Tipsy Truths first time trying whiskey brown-sugar water 🤭 not too boozy, went down really smooth loved how the unhurried pace gave everyone room to both talk and just be themselves the event covered sharing socially-anxious-introvert feelings but also broke down all kinds of factors and the ecosystem of the scene during small-group time the topics weren't limited to just scene stuff, which felt like getting to know someone in a fuller, more three-dimensional way thanks to Lingyang for planning such a thoughtful event thanks to M for coming along 💐 thanks to everyone who talked with me~"

• L

  Participant LMarch 16, 2026

  "Attended Slime Nest's Tipsy Truths the event format had so many thoughtful little touches from a warm stomach-soothing soup, to sharing survey results, to passing around a little sheep toy to take turns speaking got so absorbed in it that the time just flew right by loved the small-group conversations sharing my thoughts in such a safe atmosphere thanks to every fellow participant and our warm host Lingyang thanks to S2 for sharing such fragrant, delicious drinks special thanks to M for coming along to this event with me having you there made me feel so grounded"

• W

  Participant WMarch 16, 2026

  "Thanks to everyone I met that day I'm the Water who always shows up in some outlandish outfit even I think I'm hard to recognize probably faster to recognize the 🦊 in my hand instead unexpectedly ran into a bunch of old friends unexpectedly happy about it~ even though I'm terrible with faces I still remember names the event's name tags were amazing, with a QR code too made adding friends so convenient, really thoughtfully done more thoughts in the photos"

• F

  Participant FMarch 15, 2026

  "Went to Slime Nest's Tipsy Truths yesterday — Lingyang made name tags for everyone in advance, with your nickname and account QR code, genuinely such a great idea, I already put it to good use meeting four new friends. Also found out someone at the event had been following me since September, which is genuinely impressive given how much I usually ramble. Everyone was really friendly throughout the chat, and it seemed like a lot of people were curious about DDLG/CGL — someone asked how it works to interact without sex or romance involved, and I just said: Daddy is just Daddy 🥹"

• C

  Participant CMarch 15, 2026

  "First time attending an event while genuinely tipsy... which was really quite rude of me 🫣 not only did I show up late, I also left early... I feel so, so sorry toward the venue and host Lingyang sincere apologies~~~ even though I didn't participate much I genuinely really love Lingyang~ so gentle, so warm and friendly (｡･ω･｡)ﾉ♡ sharing my own little desires under Lingyang's guidance felt really nice too ^^ had a great time~~~"

• X

  Participant XMarch 15, 2026

  "First time attending an event at Slime Nest Lingyang was so incredibly warm and friendly d(`･∀･)b went from nervous to noticeably relaxed almost instantly had to ride my scooter home so I couldn't drink, thankfully tea was available instead got to hear so many people share, so happy to be able to chat with everyone in such a relaxed atmosphere~ learned a lot too, thanks everyone~"

• Y

  Participant YMarch 15, 2026

  "Attended Slime's Tipsy Truths tonight honestly I was worried, with how bad my alcohol tolerance is whether I could even handle this event but thankfully Lingyang had tea on hand too, so thoughtful first time at a pure chat-focused event heard so many interesting things people shared, made new friends too~ thanks to everyone for sharing today~ learned so much! (finally got to drink the iced lemon tea I've been avoiding while watching my diet...)"

• S

  Participant SAugust 9, 2026

  "※ Chat & talk session (newcomer-friendly) ※ The Truth wheel was so much fun ♡ ※ Drinking was a huge tactical error (where did my brain go? Today I went through transit hell — first I missed my stop, then nearly transferred to the wrong line while trying to switch trains, but thankfully I'd left early so I still wasn't late. The venue's pretty close to the MRT station, maybe a five-minute walk at most. I happened to run into another attendee for this event right downstairs, so we went up together (I also almost rang the doorbell next to the mailbox by mistake, thankfully I caught myself ('-w-)). The venue has a magic-mirror room, which was pretty special. This session was the chat-and-talk type. At the start, Lingyang briefly introduced today's theme, then had us do self-introductions: nickname, why you came today, that sort of thing. After that, the thing I found fun was the question wheel — a great icebreaker, and a good way to learn everyone's take on different topics. While other people answered, I'd also be answering in my head — what my answer would be, why I'd give that answer — it kept becoming this repeated moment of self-awareness. The question I landed on was: "Would you pick 'someone incredibly hot who likes you a normal amount' or 'a normal-looking person who's absolutely crazy about you'?" In the moment I picked "incredibly hot but likes you a normal amount" — first of all, if we ever fought, seeing their face might be enough to stop me from staying mad; and second, I actually feel like being "liked intensely" would be a kind of pressure and burden for me — I'd start feeling like I'm not good enough to deserve or live up to that kind of affection. Other questions included: "Would you rather have a partner who tells you directly what they want, or one who tries to seduce you into bringing it up yourself?" and "Would you choose 'never lacking for play partners' or 'finding the one destined play partner'?" I think Lingyang's Truth questions were genuinely amazing!! After that came small groups, roughly 4-5 people each, about 20 minutes of talking per group, where you could keep spinning the question wheel and answer individually, or just talk about whatever you wanted. (Since it was Tipsy Truths, I'd had a bit to drink, and by the second half I was a little out of it — tactical error!) The topic that stuck with me most was: "Could you accept a future partner who has absolutely nothing to do with this scene?" I don't fully remember the exact wording, but that was roughly the gist — I answered that I could accept it, and honestly, sometimes I even think about dragging my vanilla friends into this community, so as to avoid some of the stigma or the assumption that this is all just some kind of perversion. I answered "eyes," since when the Top's on top, the Bottom looking up gives off this helplessly pitiful kind of vibe. "Your most socially mortifying moment ever?" My answer was getting recognized on an anonymous chat app recently, which was genuinely so embarrassing (I was originally trying to play it off as a total newbie), even though I'm still not exactly experienced — I just happen to know a bit more than before. Because the questions were designed to be genuinely interesting, sometimes you had to actually think before you could answer, and it took more brainpower than I expected — and on top of that, with the alcohol, my brain got a little slow, which was a huge tactical error! I spent the whole second half just drinking water instead (。入。) Summary: a genuinely fascinating chat-and-talk session, and huge thanks to host Lingyang for designing so many different questions. Going through all kinds of questions like that, I ended up understanding myself a little better too."

• K

  Participant KAugust 9, 2026

  "Two months later, back again at (Tipsy) Truths! Last time it got postponed because of a typhoon, and this time, of all things, we happened to run into a typhoon again — but thankfully the event still went ahead smoothly 😆 Since I just started wearing braces, I only drank water the whole time, so no tipsy for me this round. Taking braces in and out, plus having to brush my teeth all over again after drinking — just way too much hassle 😭 Got to see familiar good friends today, and being around them felt so comfortable — I felt so happy, so fortunate! They knew I hadn't been doing great lately, and gave me encouragement and hugs, which genuinely touched me so much, thank you all 🥹 Also, little Anan (me) got to chat with everyone about a lot of topics today, including some around relationships, and made quite a few new friends too! Everyone was so nice, so happy to have met you all 😆 Something special this time: the host had everyone pass around a stuffed toy to decide who answers next, plus a wheel to draw questions — kind of like playing Truth or Dare, except it's only Truth 💬 Let me share the question little Anan drew when it was my turn: Q: "When playing with a partner, would you choose 'a public place, but no one sees you,' or 'a private space, but with an audience watching'?" After thinking it over, I ended up choosing the latter! Though my "audience" comes with conditions: I'm fine being watched, but I'd want whoever's watching us play to be people I already know and trust, fellow enthusiasts, and people who won't interfere with the scene itself (of course, if it's someone helping out in a way that actually benefits the scene, that's totally fine). My thinking is that they already have a decent understanding of my kinks, and know how I like to be treated. When they get the chance to see me satisfied and cared for so happily, I think it's genuinely healing for everyone involved~ I really want them to see that little Anan is being lovingly taken care of, to share in that happy atmosphere together, and then, once there's a bit of downtime after the scene, have a fun discussion with everyone about it! Honestly, there were so many other interesting questions on the wheel, and I wrote them all down! As for the answers to the other questions, I might organize them and update my new pinned bio with them~ if you're curious to get to know me better, feel free to check back on my profile later ☺️ A lot of people were curious about me today too, and during the later group table-rotation chat segment, fellow enthusiasts asked me things like why I developed a medical-play kink, what kind of treatment I like during interactions, and what got me into BDSM in the first place — and of course I was more than happy to share ☺️ There was one part that was super fun! Someone asked if I'd ever had surgery before. I said yes, I've had surgery and hospital stays, and then they followed up: "So were you turned on during that time?" I nodded like crazy immediately and said yes, hahahahaha! They really got me — that's a genuine real-life experience that happens to hit right into my kink 😆 (Actually, I have surgery coming up in a few days, so I'm kind of looking forward to that experience too~) I'm genuinely so happy that I could get you all interested! It's only in a community this accepting that I can share this freely. I feel like I'm gradually getting to the point where I can answer these kinds of questions smoothly, without needing to overthink it much anymore! Just like today, switching into my sick-child outfit — I didn't hesitate at all about whether to change into it, I just put it right on! Having an environment where I can express myself this freely genuinely makes little Anan feel so lucky 😌 Lastly, I'm really glad I got to come to this event — chatting and connecting with everyone really recharged little Anan's batteries even more!"

• M

  Participant MAugust 9, 2026

  "Six months into the scene, first time joining a pure-chat, no-play event. Really loved the opening self-introductions and warming up by answering questions off the wheel, it let a shy person like me ease into things a bit~ and it also helped that there was someone I already knew at this event, made me a lot less scared~ I really loved that one of today's questions was: "Your journey into BDSM." Honestly I've thought about this seriously over the past six months — I think back in high school through college, when I first realized I had some niche kinks, I genuinely felt a lot of guilt about it. Combined with how I grew up and the environment around me, it made me into a pretty proper, conservative kind of person, and later, after struggling for a long time over whether to enter the scene or not, I decided to just try going to an event. Gradually, influenced by everyone's openness and the warm environment in the community, I slowly opened up and started actually playing (there are plenty of people in the scene more "thirsty" than me, though XD). I also brought up something I've been worrying about lately: "what do you do when you accidentally develop feelings for a Top in the scene?" Through everyone's feedback, and my own thinking about it, I gradually realized: yes, there will be times I develop feelings for a Top, but honestly the energy of an outside-the-scene celebrity crush is just so much stronger, so it seems like I can pull myself back to being rational again after all (? One more side note: Lingyang's cocktails are so good~~ super smooth and pleasant!! the mango flavor was really fragrant, and even as someone who doesn't drink, I loved it~~ Genuinely so thankful to Lingyang for putting on such a fun event that helped me understand myself even better"